Another year of marriage especially worth celebrating in these difficult times – The Dallas Morning News

Everywhere we go, we’re surrounded by symbols of holidays: menorahs, lawn displays interpreting the first Christmas, wreaths on doorways, and twinkling, sparkling holiday lights around roofs and shrubbery.

But for me and Calvin, the first celebration we acknowledge in December is our wedding anniversary.

Next week, Lord willing, we’ll celebrate our 16th year of marriage. It’s always been important that we celebrate that moment in time, and in the midst of life’s current madness, doing so feels even more crucial. After all, we’re still experiencing a pandemic, and it’s not often that families experience an entire global, cultural and societal reset together. In a world full of constant upheaval, I’m glad that I have a partner committed to navigating the turbulence with me.

At the same time, I realize that as an institution, marriage rates are dropping. According to federal data, the last significant marriage rate increase happened about a decade before my birth, around 1963. From there, the rate fell steadily, decade by decade, before dropping to its lowest numbers from 2017 to 2018. The changes, according to sociology professor Philip Cohen of the University of Maryland, can somewhat be attributed to “women’s independence and gender equality.”

A Twitter thread that recently caught my attention was more blunt: Modern men having to adjust to expectations of being a true partner as well as a provider.

According to the man who tweeted, “Men have to now get women to like them and a lot of men aren’t likable. We’re 2 generations removed from a woman not being able to have a bank account. 3-4 removed from when they couldn’t buy a home, couldn’t work, couldn’t get educated … without a man. Women quite literally … had to be with somebody regardless of if they liked the man or not. … A lot of men want the same relationships they saw their families had but never thought to ask were the women happy in those situations. The real answer is a lot of them weren’t.”

The debate that resulted was spirited, to be sure. When I shared it with Calvin, he added another possible explanation: “Half of these guys don’t want to take care of a wife and family because they have a hard time even taking care of themselves. It’s a lot of responsibility, and a lot of them can’t handle it.”

Obviously, I’m not a guy, and luckily, I’ve had access to freedoms that previous generations of women did not. Some of my friends are happily married, some are happily single and others fall somewhere in between. I’m far from being an expert, but what I know for sure is that becoming a partner, companion, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is no one’s right or obligation. It’s not enough anymore to be a fabulous cook, fabulously built or even fabulously wealthy; more people are realizing that, in comparison to dealing with a self-absorbed significant other, …….


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Julia Roberts’ shock marriage details to Danny Moder revealed – HELLO!

December 21, 2021 – 16:50 GMT

Hannah Hargrave

Julia Roberts and Danny Moder’s marriage details might surprise fans as the couple keep their personal life out of the spotlight

Julia Roberts and Danny Moder have one of the longest and most successful marriages in Hollywood history and it may have something to do with them keeping their personal life out of the spotlight. 

The same went for when they tied the knot almost two decades ago. Despite Julia being a huge A-lister, worth millions of dollars, their nuptials were remarkably low-key. 



PM Modi takes swipe at rivals for criticising move to raise marriage age for girls – The Indian Express

Highlighting his government’s recent decision to raise the legal age of marriage for girls from 18 to 21 years, Prime Minister Narendra Modi today took on his political rivals for criticising this move.

“Earlier, the legal age of marriage for sons was 21 years, but for daughters it was only 18 years. The daughters also wanted that they should get time to pursue their studies and to get equal opportunities. Therefore, efforts are being made to bring the age of marriage to 21 years for daughters. The country is taking this decision for the sake of daughters,” Modi said.

“But everyone is seeing who is having problems with this,” the PM said, taking a swip…….